14,486 km • Same Heart
We've been talking for
days
Since Halloween night 🎃💕
And I'd do it all again in a heartbeat
Good morning, beautiful
(afternoon now, sorry I slept in and wanted this to be perfect)
In the interest of being utterly truthful: I woke up at 3am and spiralled into googling statistics about long-distance relationships. Success rates, failure reasons, what makes them work. Then I found r/LongDistance and read story after story until I was a mixture of happy-crying and sad-crying at strangers on the internet.
Fun fact from all that research: couples who live in the same city actually have a higher breakup rate than long-distance couples who have a plan to reunite within 3 years. We're already beating the odds. 😏
Somewhere around 5am, I caught myself thinking "don't get attached because she's leaving" — and then I thought: fuck that.
I am attached.
So instead of spiraling further, I spent the next few hours looking into the logistics of Us. I know it's scary, and I know I have my own anxieties, but I realised I don't want an exit clause.
I want a plan.
I looked up flight paths, the hours where our time zones overlap, and I've even started Swedish lessons (Jag försöker!). I know it's a long way, and I know it'll take work — but I think you're worth the air miles.
I put together a little "battle plan" of what I found. I'd love to hear your thoughts on it.
I'm not saying it'll be easy. I'm saying I'm willing to try if you are.
-your goof 🌚
x
Our Golden Hours
When my evening meets your morning
Two golden windows every day!
Morning goodnight calls + evening quality time = we've got this.
The Numbers
The 3-Month Rule
If we aim to see each other every 90 days, the distance becomes chunks we can count down. It's not "forever away" — it's "X weeks until."
And if it comes to it...
I've been doing some research. There are options. Let's talk about them when you're ready.
How We Stay Close
What Makes It Work
Based on actual research into what successful long-distance couples do differently.
It's not about being perfect.
It's about showing up, being honest, and having something to count down to.
I know this is a lot. I know it's scary.
But I'd rather be scared with you than comfortable without you.
Yours, always